Confrontation

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Confrontation:

None of us like it, but most of us have to deal with it. Avoid it… Ignore it… Dance around it… Tackle it… All of us deal with conflict in our own way. But, what is the right way, the biblical way to deal with conflict. How do we confront someone and do so in a way that does not destroy the relationship.

When dealing with confrontation we must place truth above the relationship. We must be honest. We value honesty, yet it’s one of the hardest things to do. One of the biggest gifts we can give to a loved one is the truth. Even when the truth may hurt.

However, honesty in regards to confrontation is worthless if it’s not accompanied by proper interest.

When dealing with confrontation it is vital that we do so with the other persons best interest in mind. So how do we insure that we have the other persons best interest in mind? Here are three questions you should ask before entering into a confrontation:

1. What’s my motivation? Am I doing this to make myself feel better? Am I doing this to get something off of my chest? Check your motivation. Make sure it’s based solely on love.

2. Does this need to be confronted? Is this something that really needs to be confronted, or is it just me? Many occasions we want to confront someone on something not because they are doing something wrong, but because their doing something that we don’t like. Something different, or annoying.

3. Is my reason for this confrontation grounded in scripture? Spend some time in the word before you jump into a confrontation. Confrontation can strengthen or destroy a relationship. Make sure that what you’re about to do is supported in scripture.

Confrontation cannot be avoided; however, it must be approached with extreme caution. Confrontation can be a destructive breaking point, but when done so in a biblical way, it can be a breaking point taking the relationship to the next level of authenticity.